4 Steps to Break Soul Ties And Demonic Curses
I want to talk about soul ties.
The Word of God doesn’t use the term or phrase “soul ties,” but it is very present and important issue. What is a soul tie? A soul tie is a spiritual connection or covenant relationship between two individuals, established mutually. Soul ties are established legally through intimacy, contractually, and/or verbally. There are legal or illegal soul ties. There is nothing wrong with building a great partnership, covenant relationship with others.
A godly soul tie is legal and pure. Ungodly relationships are established illegally through multiple sexual partners, or even illicit business relationships that should never have been made. Many times a soul tie begins when two people become physically intimate. Other times, a soul tie forms over time, after an intensely close emotional or spiritual relationship. I would view a soul tie as like a knot in a rope. It’s a tying of two soul cords, like shoestrings, that links them together. A person cannot tie their shoestrings with one hand. It takes two hands to tie them together.
Likewise, when it comes to soul ties both people are involved. Sometimes people are unaware of the emotional, spiritual, and mental affect that a soul tie brings with it. The longer the bond of the soul tie exists, the tighter, stronger, and bigger it becomes, making it harder to severe if it becomes unhealthy. People think that once they break off a relationship, the soul tie automatically is broken. This is not true. Common examples of soul ties are marriages, family, business partnerships, ministry involvement, and good friendships, which are considered good soul ties. The ungodly, illegal, or negative soul ties are relationships that ultimately bring a person into bondage or robs or controls a person’s will that potentially brings harm as a result of the bond. It is a devil’s tactic in spiritual warfare for believers to establish unhealthy, toxic, unproductive, ungodly, negative, and life-altering relationships, connections, and commitments with people outside of God’s will for them.
Breach the Contract or Agreement
Unhealthy, illegal, unproductive relationships or soul ties to past or present relationships hurts, pains and wounds keeps believers from being able to give their whole selves to God and the person He may have chosen as their true “soul mate.” The soul is the seat of the mind, will, and emotions. Unhealthy and toxic relationships of the past and present can negatively play a part in how a person thinks, acts, and feels. A soul tie is the joining of two people of like heart and mind. Again, there is nothing wrong with good, pure, and godly partnerships and connections that produce blessings, favor, fruitfulness, and mutual love, honor, and respect.
But, we are not to get involved in sexual relationships outside of marriage. This, to the Lord, is considered an illegal or illicit soul tie. Having sexual encounters with others who are not your spouse by marriage is spiritually and technically a marriage. In other words, any sexual involvement with someone not our spouse links the two souls together. God showed me an illustration of an illegal soul tie by brings to mind the Disney classic fictional character Pinocchio by Carlo Collodi. Pinocchio was bound and controlled by his puppet master. The strings controlled his movements.
When a person is involved in an unhealthy, ungodly, and negative soul tie, invisible strings knit the two hearts together and their movements, emotions, and feeling are shared. That’s why when a person moves on or ends a relationship, years later they are still thinking about that person and can’t break free from that person emotionally. Another prime example is when people are in an abusive (physical or verbal) relationship yet they won’t remove themselves from that hurtful environment because of the bond, the soul tie that holds them together.
In the Word of God there are examples of godly covenant soul tie relationships that the Lord established. We can see one such relationship in the story of David and Jonathan: “As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul” (1 Samuel 18:1 NKJV). Some pervert this particular text to make it ungodly, or an immoral relationship. Jonathan loved David as a brother and treated him how he would treat himself. This was not a homosexual or illegal relationship between two men. Jonathan was not in love with David, he loved him as if he was family.
Battle Buddies
Have you met people and felt connected to them and they became like family? This was the same case and God desire for us to have relationship like this. I boot camp training, recruits are assigned a “battle buddy.” Everywhere you go, your battle partner is with you. This technique can be applied to prayer partners as well. Choose a person who will pray with you and for you. This type of relationship is bonding and will help you to be accountable. Battle buddies in times of war will even die for each other.
When a person has had many partners, a person’s soul is knitted together to each individual, whether love is involved or not. We need God-ordained and legal relationships for two to be blessed. What is the point of connecting with a person(s) who is making your life miserable? The Bible says in Amos 3:3 (ESV), “Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?” I love what the website Bible Study Tools Commentary shares about Amos 3:3, about believers walking in concert and agreement between humans and God, spiritually speaking:
Unless they meet together, and appoint time and place, when and where they shall set out, what road they will take, and whither they will go; without such consultation and agreement, it cannot be thought they should walk together; and not amicably, unless united in friendship, and are of the same affection to each other, and of the same sentiments one with another; or it is much if they do not fall out by the way. The design of these words is to show, that without friendship there is no fellowship, and without concord no communion; as this is the case between man and man, so between God and man; and that Israel could not expect that God should walk with them, and show himself friendly to them, and continue his favors with them, when they walked contrary to him; when they were so disagreeable to him in their sentiments of religion, in their worship, and the rites of it, and in the whole of their conduct and behavior. And to a spiritual walk with God, and communion with him, agreement is requisite. God and man were originally chief friends, but sin set them at variance; a reconciliation became necessary to their walking together again.
In this unseen warfare, we must be aware and discerning. We must make wise decisions and seek the Lord about every relationship, whether about a future spouse, business partnership, friendship, etc. He will give us direction and wisdom how to build long-lasting, fruitful relationships.
Knitting of Hearts
Matthew 19:5 says, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is how soul ties work. Marital soul ties are acceptable and ordained of God. Soul ties established on fornication, sexual immorality, adultery, and other sexual contact outside of marriage are not of God. Intimate relationships knit two people together as one soul whether a person is married or unmarried (single).
The Lord wants His people to enjoy godly soul ties. A covenant is a legal and binding agreement or contract; a marriage is a legal union or covenant between a man and a woman. Again, the enemy respects no one and would love to establish ungodly and unbiblical unions, even civil unions or marriages between two men and two women. This is not biblical. Just because your nation, country, or state law considers it legal or right doesn’t mean it is morally or scripturally right and acceptable. God has ordained marriage to be between the opposite sex—one woman and one man.
The agenda of hell is to make what is ungodly and illegal in the sight of God right and acceptable in the sight of humans. That’s why the works of the devil—and what I spoke about in the previous chapter about principalities, power, rulers of darkness and spiritual evils in high places—influences and controls the world system that spiritually blinds people to the truth of God and His Word. I firmly believe that abortion, same sex marriages, and other violations of the Word of God are what need to be abolished and overruled in the systems of the world.
Keep in mind that we can also establish unhealthy toxic relationships with our employers, employees, church leadership and membership, parents, kids, and anyone we invite into our lives. Just because some of these relationships are supposed to be spiritual and godly, they could be relationships that God never directed or intended for us. Again, we need to discern every connection. Ask God if this relationship, job, career, school, church, leader, etc. are ordained of Him. Also, the Spirit within you will also make it clear which relationships are not of the Lord.
Soul Tie Symptoms
The Word of God says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 (ESV), “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” Clearly, this passage of Scripture is a powerful question and statement to ponder. Darkness and light have no commonality and righteousness and lawlessness are the opposites.
What are soul tie symptoms? Soul tie symptoms are usually what a person feels, thinks, and is emotionally moved by the person after a particularly intense relationship ends. In other words, I call it the aftereffect of a breach in a relationship that causes further codependence manifestations. For example, if a person is used to eating a particular food for some time and when that food is removed, the person will go through some levels of withdrawal.
Soul ties, depending on how long the relationship or connection lasted, can cause withdrawals. These soul tie symptoms can impact a person’s mind, will, and emotions long after the relationship has ended, even years later. Soul tie symptoms can cause an irate, erratic, or spontaneous mood swings attributed to that past or present relationship. The following are a few soul tie symptoms:
Suddenly imagining, visualizing, or hearing the person’s face and voice in your head that can trigger a certain attitude, mood swings, memory, or physical manifestation.
Stalking, overly referring to the person in conversation, obsessing about the individual(s) in your thoughts—particularly at certain times during the day or night.
Regularly pondering, thinking, fantasizing, or dreaming about this person while single (unmarried) or married.
Some symptoms are secrets, lusts, or desires from how the soul tie was mutually created.
Emotionally, mentally, and financially traumatized by the negative results or outcomes of what this person(s) did that hindered, controlled, or manipulated you.
It is possible to move on to another relationship and still be bound by the soul tie with people from your past. People who are married currently can still be emotionally attached and married (spiritually speaking) to their past marriage or intimate relationships. Most are unable to please their current spouse because of their fractured soul that is still knitted with the other person(s). Just because someone moves on or marries doesn’t mean the soul tie is broken.
But there is good news, relationships can be severed by the power of God and through the power of our decisions that created them. Just like ungodly soul ties are established by our decisions, they are broken by our decision to be free.
I want you to know that just because a person prophesies or says they are called to be connected to you or walk with you, doesn’t mean that they are God-ordained relationships. We must be alert in this hour and especially when it comes to those we allow in our hearts. We must guard our hearts. Proverbs 4:23-26 makes that clear. We are admonished and reminded by the Word of God of all the things that try to come against us. Being wise and discerning through the Holy Spirit, especially in the relationships we build in this hour, is what it means to guard your hearts.
We must overcome temptations every day and the works of the devil. He will use people to get close to us—who will become more like an enemy than a friend. Guarding our hearts is setting the right boundaries and personal preferences for who you allow in. A soul tie symptom has the power to reach levels that can negatively impact your current and future relationships.
Threefold Cord
God wants us to establish strong relationships, friendships and partnerships whether in business, ministry, family, etc. The Bible talks about the “three-fold” cord that is not easily broken or severed. We need relationships that are God-ordained making it impossible to break them by others or ourselves. It says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
I don’t believe we need a whole entourage to feel important, respected, valued, and secure. Personally, I have three amazing, work, spiritual, and God-ordained relationships, and we keep each other accountable. These are godly soul ties of covenant built on trust, transparency, love, respect, and value. We pray for each other, can discern if one is in trouble or in need financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Love has no hidden agenda or motive.
The Lord will send you friends, comrades, battle buddies, prayer partners, associates, people who are filled with the love of God and will tell you the truth no matter what. Not to hurt, harm, or abuse you, but save your life, time, and money.
While writing this book I faced tremendous warfare, especially on the eve of a global pandemic. There were only a handful of people who checked in on me to see if I was okay. There were many I thought were my friends and covenant partners in God, but they weren’t when it counted.
You must value and reevaluate those who you allow in your circle. Soul ties are real and there is a silver cord in the Spirit that links us to God and His people. Just like an umbilical cord that connects a mother and her unborn child. All of God’s people have an invisible silver cord or ribbon that supernaturally connects us to the Lord.
How to Break Illegal Soul Ties
Ecclesiastes 12:6-7 (GW) says, “Remember your Creator before the silver cord is snapped, the golden bowl is broken, the pitcher is smashed near the spring, and the water wheel is broken at the cistern. Then the dust of mortals goes back to the ground as it was before, and the breath of life goes back to God who gave it.” This silver cord nourishes our spirits and gives us life; when cut, we return to our Creator. However, spiritual speaking when it comes to illegal, toxic, ungodly, unhealthy, and illicit soul ties of the past and even present, each must be cut, burned, severed, snapped, broken, and shattered for divine breakthrough and liberty.
In other words, severing a soul tie is imperative and a necessary step to take before you can move forward with your life. People are stuck in relationships because they are bound by the contract or terms of agreement established. It’s time to rip, tear, and burn the mutual agreement. It doesn’t always have to be both parties coming together to break it. One person can actual break free from the soul connection.
So, how do we break soul ties? There are typically four simple steps to break a soul tie:
1. Acknowledge a soul tie exists and be honest with yourself that you are ready to move on and be free from it. For example, if a person has an addiction, they must first confess by acknowledging the problem. That is the first step. James 5:16 instructs us to “Therefore confess your sins to each other so that you may be healed….” The word “confess” is the Greek word exomologeō, which basically means “to declare, to say out loud, to exclaim, to divulge, to blurt, or to profess that one will do something, to promise, agree, engage” (Strong’s G1843). In other words, acknowledging is basically confessing. The first step!
2. Choose to end the relationship. This could be having a conversation with the person or parties involved in the relationship. Also, praying and/or fasting to sever the cord that was established and calling out their names in prayer to break the cord between you. I do prophetic acts when I pray by spiritually visualizing a cord being severed by calling out the person’s name and using my hand as a sword to cut the cord. I see myself cutting the cord and it is broken by faith.
It may seem foolish at first; however, the effect is powerful when done in faith in prayer. I must say, you will know that an illegal, illicit, unhealthy, or ungodly soul tie is really broken when you start receiving emails, text messages, social media messages, unexpected phones calls, or start randomly seeing the person or anyone connected to them. When this happens, you must know that your prayers worked, and now it’s up to you not to reconnect. The enemy will test and tempt you to see if you are truly over this person and have moved on.
3. Choose to forgive, which is the most powerful form of personal liberty and freedom from an ungodly soul tie. Forgiveness takes action and can be the most difficult step to take. In some cases, this might be because you feel that the other person in the bond should be asking for your forgiveness.
To forgive is the most powerful spiritual warfare weapon to discharge because the enemy doesn’t want people to forgive and be set free. Evil wants you to remain the victim or victimized unwilling to forgive the offender. Forgiveness means identifying any outstanding or pending mental “debts” that are keeping the soul tie active, and releasing them. Therefore, you must forgive yourself first in acknowledging that you made a mistake—which can be very difficult to do when you feel that it wasn’t your fault in the first place.
4. Remove any and all physical objects that link you to the person. For example, if the person was a drug addict, remove all the paraphernalia associated with drugs. Action is required to remove anything closely related to our past and the individual. I will also go so far as to say that you must not connect with people who are associated with that person. However, if you have children with someone from a past relationship or marriage, it doesn’t mean you have to cut them totally off. But be wise in your actions so that old doors will not be reopened. Removing objects such as gifts, photos, clothing, love notes, etc. is vital to moving on. Keep in mind that these objects are symbols of the bond and must be removed from your life.
Also, seek help from spiritual leaders to get spiritual insight. It is possible to seek counseling, a therapist and professionals who can help you in your journey to freedom. No longer will you be controlled by the puppet master of your past through a soul tie. Changing your phone number, unfollowing and blocking people on social media, moving to another city, state, or country will not remove the soul tie. Only you hold the scissors to cut the soul tie and keep it cut.
Finally, after all of the physical markers, gifts, substance, mental debts, and spiritual ties that link you to the person have been dissolved in prayer, you should be well on the way to overcoming the power of the soul tie symptoms. If you want to learn more about how to dissolve, disarm, and break illegal soul ties, generational, and demonic words curses, I suggest reading my book entitled Prophetic Breakthrough: Decrees that Break Curses and Release Blessings as a powerful resource on the topic.
I pray that the take-aways from reading this spiritual warfare manual will empower you to not only destroy the works of the darkness but to disarm to destroy his works. Jesus came to destroy the very works of the devil not just displace them. He was able drive them out—and remember that you are called to enforce the victory of Calvary that Jesus Christ has already won! The rules of engagement are not the same for every spiritual battle, so you must fight from the position of a winner and conqueror in Christ.
In modern-day warfare, the United States military sends drones into places to spy out the land and later send an air patrol followed by ground troops to fight. Likewise, we must first discern what type of battle you are presently fighting and use the right weaponry to engage and defeat the works of the adversary. This is done through a series of warfare prayers activations that shift and change your spiritual climate for the glory of God.
I salute you, soldier of God, that you are a survivor; and I pray that you are awarded the Purple Heart as a symbol of your dedication to the Lord and your service in the army of God.
